Goal.
The first key.
The first thing I wrote down, that night in 1980 in a small office in the Pfalz, was the word goal. I did not write "be successful." I did not write "be a footballer." I wrote — and I remember the line — Bundesliga, in five years.
Specific. With a number. A picture I could see when I closed my eyes. That is what a goal is. The rest is decoration.
Every player I have ever coached who has gone on to do something with the game has known the same thing: where they were headed, in a sentence, with a date. Every player I have lost to the middle of the table has had a different answer — a longer one, a vaguer one, or no answer at all.
I do not believe in dreams. I believe in goals. A dream is a goal that you will not name and will not date. The difference between the two — between the player who arrives and the player who almost did — is whether the page in the notebook was filled in.
So when a 14-year-old player sits in front of me and says he wants to be a footballer, I ask him for his sentence. Where, when, what level. Most cannot answer me on the first try. We sit with it for a while. By the end of the afternoon, he has a sentence. We write it on the inside of the front cover of his notebook so that he sees it every time he opens the book to take notes from training.
Then I ask him a harder question — and this is the one I also ask the parents, because for the parents it is even more useful. What does that goal cost? Two trainings a week is not enough; what is enough? What does the player have to give up to get there? What does the family have to give up? Most goals fall down at this question. The ones that survive it have a chance.
"I do not believe in dreams. I believe in goals. A dream is a goal that you will not name and will not date."
This is not a hard idea. It is one sentence. But the players who actually do it — who sit down on a Sunday evening and write the sentence and pay its price — are very few. Be one of those few.
The work, this week.
- Player. Write your goal in one sentence. Include a level, a date, and one thing you must give up to reach it.
- Parent. Ask your child for the sentence on Sunday. Do not edit it. Write your own.
- Together. Read both sentences out loud. Tape them to the inside of the front cover of the notebook.